Last week I posted about the bite incident of 2012. I’ve since deleted the post and it’s related comments because I realized after the fact that my thoughts could easily be misconstrued. I didn’t want to hurt Mike’s feelings. Of course I realized this after said feelings had already been hurt.
I got quite a few comments and emails about the situation and feel the need to clarify three things:
1. Mike would never abuse our pets.
2. Mike would NEVER abuse our pets.
3. I love my pets more than is socially acceptable.
I think the point I was trying to make in the post was that I didn’t know whether Bella bit him out of fear or anger. They are two totally different scenarios. I was hoping it was out of fear and a result of Mike’s raised voice combined with the fact that she KNEW she was in trouble (she’s well aware that trash-digging is frowned upon and gets sulky as soon as she realizes she’s been caught. She’s a smart dog, y’all), and NOT that she was being aggressive for the sake of being aggressive – because that is totally out of her character and I really don’t think she’s got any sort of mean-ness in her. I know now that it was the former and even though I can’t completely walk away from the fact that she bit a person, I know that it’s fixable and won’t happen again.
I wasn’t questioning Mike’s actions/reactions, and I know that he wouldn’t ever intentionally hurt Bella. He trains Bloodhounds on a daily basis. He’s the one that picked out both of our kittens. He is the most soft-hearted man I know, and when he’s not doing something masculine or disgusting, he’s cuddling on the couch with me and the cats. Because he’s that great.
When I first posted about the bite, I was really sad. Sad because I wish I had been there to let Bella know that we love her even if she was in trouble for eating the trash. Sad because I wish she hadn’t bitten Mike, and sad because as much as I wanted to make both of them feel better, I couldn’t. Bella is my baby and no matter how much trouble she gets in, I always apologize to her – I HAVE to make sure she knows I love her. That’s so important to me. So that was the dilemma – being angry at her about the bite, but feeling the urge to let her know that I still love her.
Anyway, it was never about what Mike did. It was about what Bella did.